Trans Valentine’s Day Ideas That Celebrate Love, Identity, and Joy

Experiencing the joy of a trans Valentine’s Day is something you truly deserve. After all, you’ll be going through the day as the most authentic version of yourself. Showing that to the world, and being loved in return, can be an affirming and all-round delightful experience.

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We want you to experience that affirmation and joyousness this Valentine’s Day, just as we wish for the rest of our readers to experience it. Here, let’s break down some great trans Valentine’s Day ideas that can help you celebrate your love and your identity at once.

Our Top Trans Valentine’s Day Ideas

• A Bouquet of Non-Binary Roses: A bouquet of roses makes a beautiful gift for Valentine’s Day, not to mention a traditional one. You might not know, though, that (according to botanists and Ashton Young writing for Go Magazine), most roses are genetically hermaphroditic. This means they can be any combination of male and female, and/or genderless altogether. It doesn’t get much more apt than that when buying a gift for a genderqueer person.
• Explore Beautiful Spaces in Nature: As well as those non-binary roses, nature is full of things that have a questionable relationship with gender at best. Provided the weather suits you both, go out and track down some beautiful natural spaces near you. There’s a wealth of things to see out there, so why not track them down? Try using a plant-identifying app to see if you can find any plants with the aforementioned questionable genders.
• Support Queer Businesses: As support for trans people, and the LGBTQ+ community at large, shifts over time, it can be easy for queer businesses to get lost and go bankrupt. To avoid that happening, think of spaces where you’ve felt safe and happy to spend a little money. Supporting those businesses is essential, and by doing so, you’re giving something back to the community. If you mention this to a business owner early enough, they may even be able to host a Valentine’s event!
• Have an LGBT+ Movie Night: For a quiet night in, there’s really not much better than a movie night. To celebrate trans identity, try tracking down some movies with uplifting trans narratives. For instance, “Anything’s Possible” is an uplifting movie about a trans teen (Kelsa) navigating high school life. A classmate (Khal) gets a crush and asks Kelsa out, leading to a romance that showcases the sweetness and tenderness that make coming-of-age stories so nice.
• A Silent Disco in Nature: This is a little more out-there, but enjoying a silent disco with your partner can be a great balance of physical, enjoyable, and silly! This could make a perfectly lovely date in your home, of course. However, we would argue that it’s a great trans Valentine’s Day idea to share your best moves with any plants, insects, and birds that might spot you. Take some headphones, find a quiet spot in nature, and dance!
• Thrift Store Challenge: The great thing about this trans Valentine’s Day idea is that you can personalise it to you and your partner. The core idea is simple: you visit a thrift store, come up with a budget, and challenge one another to find a specific item. This works best if you make it a competition, for instance, “find the weirdest hat”. Since you know what you and your partner enjoy wearing and doing, you can tailor the challenge to fit your tastes in no time.
• DIY Ice Cream Adventure: Ice cream machines are no longer the mega-pricey piece of equipment they once were, especially if you don’t mind manually freezing the mixture yourself now and then. Pick up a second-hand ice cream machine, and see who can make the tastiest ice cream! To make it a little more trans specific, try creating three flavors in the trans pride colors. Then, see if you can make your own Neapolitan trans pride ice cream!

Self-Love is Love Too

While our trans Valentine’s Day ideas above are all about celebrating the love you feel with a partner, it’s essential to feel the love for yourself, too. Take the time to engage in a bit of self-care that will make a positive difference in your life. As Ivana Fischer shared in an article for Wussy, “I don’t mean ‘selfcare uwu”, […] I mean get up and make an effort to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally this holiday season.”

Think of some things in your life and your home that you could do to make a positive change in your life. This could be anything from doing some laundry to getting into the hobby of hiking to keep fit. You don’t have to do it alone, of course: a laundry date or a couple’s hike could be enjoyable, provided it’s with your person. So, love yourself with a positive change, and get your partner in on it too!

While Valentine’s Day can quite often be thought of as a vaguely annoying Hallmark holiday, the love that people feel on the day is entirely real and valid. We hope that you can have an authentic trans Valentine’s Day this year, and experience some of that love for yourself.