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How To Become A Swinger? – Your Ultimate Guide to Swingers Lifestyle

Last Updated on March 17, 2021

So, the excitement of sleeping with other couples brought you here…

Swinging is for you if you are one​ of those couples who have always fantasized about having sex with other couples.

But it’s based on mutual understanding.

You are not the only one who decides to take off in the swinging plane; your partner has to agree too.

When both the partners decide they are ready to meet different people and indulge in such activities, sex life becomes smoking hot.

I know you want to be a swinger. You are just uncertain about what’s going to happen.

Take a chill pill!

I bet this experience is going to be the most adventurous thing you ever did!

If you don’t know how to enter into the swinger’s world and where to start from, here I am with all the information you need to have before you live the most golden phase of your sex life!

Who are Swingers?

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Swingers are couples who mutually decide to sleep with other people.

Sometimes, they find another person to sleep with. Sometimes, they find a couple.

Their swinging history is entirely based on their choices.

It’s up to them if one of the couples decides to hold back, sit, and enjoy while their partner and the other person are having sex.

And it’s up to them if they get enough of watching and decide to join the play.

When it comes to swinger’s life, there is a pool of possibilities you can choose from:

  1. Swapping partners – You can swap partners for some hot, steamy, sexy hours.
  2. Group Sex – All four of the partners can indulge in sexual activities all at once. Sometimes, the number can be even more based on your sexual fantasies.
  3. Swinger’s Party – To multiply the fun, you can go to a swinger’s party to have sex with the most outrageously hot people!

How to become a Swinger?

1. Make sure you and your partner are in tune

Before you jump into the swinger’s world, you have to take cautions of a few things.

First things first! Make sure you and your partner’s expectations from swinging are in tune.

You don’t​ want to lose what you already have in hopes of something more exciting.

If you and your partner are not aware of each other’s needs, things can become messy and fall out of hands.

So, to start with, have a solid conversation with your partner to properly know their expectations, boundaries, fears, and insecurities.

If required, make a set of rules so there is no confusion and phases of jealousy in the near future at all.

2. Base your journey on mutual understanding

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After acknowledging the complexities and twists and turns of your partner’s expectations and demands, it’s time for some mutual decision.

Just knowing your partner’s side is not enough, you have to open up with your own expectations and boundaries too.

Once that is done, it’s time for you to decide how and when you are going to start your swinging journey.

Do you want to keep it personal to some extent by inviting only a person to join you in group sex?

Or do you want to start on a high note and take your first step by entering into a swinger’s party for your very first swinging experience?

The decision is yours to make!

3. Join Swinger Dating Sites

Now that you have discussed all the terms with your partner, it’s time for you to join the swinger’s world.

But do you know swinger’s parties are not open for everyone?

Your name has to be there in the invitation list before you step into one of these.

To get your name in the invitees, you have to get familiar with the community.

The swingers community is very welcoming. But you have to know them first.

By joining Swinger Dating Sites, your purpose is sure to be served.

These sites will lead your way to other swingers. Eventually, you will find yourself getting invited to a number of swinger clubs and parties in your nearby areas.

There are a lot of sites to choose from. But Adult Friend Finder is one of the most promising ones as it allows you to meet a lot of like-minded swingers.

4. Put your foot forward to interact with the swinger’s community

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Now that you know the staircase to enter the doors of the world of swingers, the next important step will be to introduce yourself to the people.

Be friendly, open, and confident in your interactions.

Believe me; it’s quite common to be nervous as you are just a beginner making your first move. But don’t let nervousness get into your way of taking chances.

Slowly, you will get a hold of it.

Don’t be reluctant to make the first move. Introduce yourself to other swingers before you enjoy red hot sex with them.

And always remember, first impressions can make or break the deal!

5. Get to know them well

Have you ever been on a first date with someone and didn’t like it all?

The same can happen when you are swinging.

You will love some of the experiences. While in the others, you will be extremely uncomfortable.

But hear me out, you and your partner don’t want to deal with such a thing.

You can get rid of such situations by fixing a meeting to just have a conversation before you let the other swinger jump on your body.

The first meeting gives you an opportunity to decide whether you want to see the swinger couple again or not.

6. Head out to a Swingers Club

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After all the discussions, interactions, and a few experiences, it’s time for you to head out to the Swingers Club now!

But where will I find a Swinger Club?

Ask your swinger community to help you out with this one.

Or, just type it out on Google and you will get a number of swingers clubs in your area!

Be careful in deciding if these clubs are legit or not.

Check the details and read the reviews when you choose a place to get hot and wet.

7. Pay a visit to Swinger Cruises

Just when you thought the swinger lifestyle cannot get any more amazing… here you are with the discovery of swinger cruises!

Imagine the swinging lifestyle shifting to the high seas on cruises…

That’s what they call Swinger Cruises!

Imagine being on an adult-themed cruise with all the possibilities of casual hook-ups, wild sex, and all kind of nasty things.

Guess what, your wildest fantasies have turned true!

Couples go on swinger cruise to give their sexual life some interesting twist and turn.

Though playrooms are the only places you can have sexual intercourse with rich strangers, you can get all hot and sensual at the pool.

8. Experiment in Swingers Party

You know the main attraction of these parties – sex with strangers.

Besides, you also​ get some added advantages.

For instance, similar to the other parties, food and drinks are served here too!

You can also brush your nervousness off as there are plenty of swingers interacting before or after indulging in sexual activities.

If you are guessing who are the hosts of these parties, they are people just like you: Swingers.

And the good news is, ONLY those who are interested in swinging are welcome here.

9. Dare not forget Swinger Vacations/Resorts

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As the number of swinging couples is growing by leaps and bounds, the industries have given heed to this lifestyle of sexual expression.

With that being said, you are going to enter the most thrilling time of swinging history with vacation spots and resorts welcoming you in this world of sexual adventure.

There are a lot of places and resorts to choose from. These vacation spots and resorts are usually located in the lap of nature.

The locations ensure you and your partner experiment with your sexual life while enjoying the most beautiful sceneries.

The rules of each and every resort vary. While some of these are completely nude-friendly, some require you to wear a piece of clothing in specific areas.

While you are free to have sex with anyone and everyone, consent still really matters.

So, keep it in mind to put a full stop to your advances if they are not welcomed.

Takeaway!

Swinging gives you the best sex experiences of your life.

It may seem hard to accept some facts in your first times. But soon, you get a hold of these things, and it feels like the most freeing and easy thing ever!

Your partner’s opinion implies a huge effect on your swinging lifestyle.

If things are not done right, swinging can scar your relationship with your partner.

Once everything is settled and boundaries are established, you are going to find life-long friends, creative ways of self-expression, and obviously enjoy the sex life of your dreams.

Amy Olson

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