7 First Time Swinging Tips You Must Never Forget
by John Santana
So, swinging brought you here. And I’m so glad it did!
You’re going to love it in this absolutely amazing and irresistible world of swinging.
It satisfies you to the core while giving you new exciting adventurous experiences all the while.
There’s nothing pleasurable than expanding your sexual boundaries and living your fantasies for real.
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But before you put your first steps in this real fantasy land, I’m sure you have some doubts.
“How am I gonna make a couple to swing with me?”
“How is my partner going to react?”
“How am I going to mingle with the community? I wish I got some tips!”
So, here you are!
Before you hurry your way to become a swinger, know its ins and outs.
The lifestyle is exciting but it can either make or break your relationship.
To help you out, here I am with all the tips a newbie swinger needs to know. So, without any delay, let’s get started!
7 Tips for First Time Swingers
1. Point out the reason you want to do swinging
Life is a long series of carefully planned events for someone. For the others, it’s just a series of unsought stupid mistakes.
Which one of these are you? If you are the latter, I advise you to act like the first one.
Swinging is not the same as drinking the first shot of tequila just because all of your friends did it.
Neither is it some stupid adventure to which you throw yourself up to.
It’s a lifestyle and you have to find your reason to enter it.
Is it because you and your partner are an extremely loving couple who invests a lot of trust upon each other but want to expand your sexual boundaries by trying to do something new?
Or is it because your marriage or relationship is in ruins and you are choosing swinging to build a new foundation?
Let me tell you, swinging is about two partners who trust each other having sex for fun and satisfaction with other couples.
It’s not for couples who can’t stand each other, nor can they say they trust each other.
If you are using swinging as an escape, then you are building sheer unreal expectations.
If you and your partner are looking for some kinky fun, exploring sexual boundaries, and living in an open way… nothing can be better than swinging for you.
2. Mutually take all the swinging decisions with your partner
Now that you realize what’s that one thing (there can be a lot of amazing things, though) that makes you try out swinging, it’s time to talk with your partner.
The whole idea of bringing this topic to your partner can be a bit intimidating for you.
After all, you are going to inform them that you are ready to have sex with other people, all at the same time while asking if they are ready to have sex with other people too.
I can’t explain in words how lucky you are if your partner shares the same thoughts and agrees with this lifestyle.
After you make sure that both of you are on the same page, it’s time to set a few rules for your amazingly swinging life ahead.
3. Set some rules and draw the borderline
The importance of setting rules and discussing boundaries can’t be neglected.
Both of you are really excited to bang and let someone else bang you. Even then, you will need some boundaries.
Like for the first time, discuss with your partner what’s the plan for the night.
Is this night just meant to look and feel or it’s meant to grab some action now and today?
Talk about if they are okay with letting others kiss them. (Most of the new swingers follow the No-kissing rule while they are okay with intercourse)
Discuss if it would be fine for you to have same-sex intercourse in the same room as they are.
Talk things out. Outline a plan and follow it.
4. Find Swinging couples online
You can’t stop your throbbing heart since you and your partner decided it was a nice idea to swing.
But the throbbing heart can be disappointed if you fail to find swinger couples to make your dream a reality.
Let me give you a tip that is sure to save your dying dreams –
Go online!
The Internet is going to be your best buddy when you are finding someone to help you to swing.
Swinging has covered a long way from being a hush-hush affair in key parties to having specialized websites and sites for it.
Just by typing “Swinger Clubs”, you will get a long list of swinger clubs near your area.
Not only you can meet swingers online with these swinging, but you can also fix an online date to get the feeling even if you are not physically present there.
You are sure to find a lot of swingers on dating and adult sites as well.
Not only that, there are a lot of Facebook Groups for swingers where you can find the details of all the nearby swingers’ parties and events.
Just request to be on the guest list and there you are! Ready to experience a whole new pleasure level.
5. Fear attachment more than your worst fears
The first and foremost rule in the swinging lifestyle is –
Do not get attached to your swinger partners!
Getting emotions for your swinger partner… that’s the worst thing that can happen to your swinging lifestyle.
No one wants to get attached or make bonds here. All of us are here for having a great time and sex, that’s all!
I’m sure that you will make many great life-long friends here, but feeling anything more than lusty for them will invite unnecessary trouble.
I have a tip for you to dodge this bullet too:
Never ever repeat having sex with the same couple again and again.
Yes, you can have sex with them after an interval of a few months to be sure.
Or, you can have sex with them after you slept with some other 6-7 couples.
Do not make the mistake of heating things up with the same person as this can lead to unwanted confusion.
Even if you are sure you are not going to fall for this one, there’s one thing I want to tell you.
People fall for the most unexpected people at the most unexpected times.
So just like condoms, use protection for this too.
6. Learn to approach people and be social
If you are looking forward to being a swinger, you have to learn to be social.
You can’t go on rambling about how swingers don’t accept new swingers in their group.
Swingers are the friendliest people with whom you will find it extremely easy to have conversations.
You just have to initiate the process. Go and approach them. Introduce yourself and offer your interest to swing with them or to be a part of their conversation.
7. Show up on time
Either in the lifestyle or otherwise, it’s a good quality to be on time.
Anyway, you are going to have some added advantages if you are on time.
It will save you from feeling lost which you will feel if you enter late into a swinger’s party and everyone has already departed to rooms or found their partners to have sex.
Takeaway!
Everything sounds fun about swinging. But it’s even more astounding when you indulge in a firsthand experience.
Many couples swing to bring adventure into their sex life. Not only does it strengthen their trust and love for each other, but it also strengthens their bond and makes their marriage healthy.
In fact, it often leads to fewer divorces and a long-lasting happy married life. So, what are you waiting for?
Put on your nice clothes, clean yourself a bit, and open the doors to swinging as you own it! I assure if you follow and implement these tips, you are going to rock in there!
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