The hookup relationship is one of the most trending elements of today’s generation. The generation Y is absolutely afraid of commitment, and they want a relationship which is casual, and from which you can get all the physical and emotional benefits.
But even when relationships are casual, you would feel the pressure rising when you are trying to break up from the relationship.
Tips to end a Hookup Relationship
#1. Do not try the blame game
Trust us when we say this, but the blame game never causes any comfort when you are trying to end it. Most people think that if I Put The Blame On somebody else, then it would be a lot easier to get rid of the relationship. Even saying things like “ I am not good for you” and “you deserve something really better than me” does not really help, and it seems like a lame excuse that you are using to get rid of the other person.
Instead, try discussing what really went wrong and why you do not want to hurt the other person by tagging along with his relationship. Since this is a casual HookUp thing he or she will not be deeply attached to you- therefore things will definitely be easier if you try to be honest with each other. If you are seeing someone else is honest and let the other person know so that he or she can put control over their expectations.
#2. Do not keep on sleeping with them
If you have been thinking of leaving the other person and yet you are taking the benefit of sleeping with him on her then it is downright wrong. Usually, any one person in the relationship wants more than just casual night outs and if you are not the one then do not hurt the other person by repeatedly sleeping with him or her and letting their expectations rise. In a casual relationship, it is always important that both of the people are absolutely confident about what they are doing and a transparent about each other’s expectations so that there is no misunderstanding. Therefore, once you feel like you need to get out of it, go for the direct approach and talk your heart out.
Of course, you don’t want to create confusion in the mind of the other person, do you? We hope not. Now if you want to go on liking his or her posts on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and so on, you will be doing nothing other than sending mixed signals, and they will be absolutely confused about what you actually want. To avoid confusion it is always advisable that once you stop being with that person, you stop completely- in the real world as well as in the social media.
Otherwise, it will provoke thoughts like- “ I know he is trying to avoid me in the front, but if he didn’t like me why does he keep on liking my posts?” we are not telling you to block the person completely, but once you keep on connecting via social media understand that the healing process will take a lot longer than anticipated.
#4. If you still feel like connecting ask yourself questions and be honest about the answers
Most people who have not stopped connecting with people that think they are doing it for the other person, but as it turns out, they are only doing it to heal themselves. Did you know that it is absolutely realistic for you to expect that your partner will still be friends with you after you have broken up with him or her? You have to remember that any relationship comprises of numerous emotional attachments and until and unless you give it a complete break it is not easy for the other person to get over you.
Rejection is not something that people can take lightly, and it causes anger and confusion among a lot of people. So if you are compelled to remain connected to the other person then you have two choices- stop yourself or continue with the relationship.
#5. Be prepared
Remember that it is absolutely ok to feel angry, guilty and hundreds of other emotions grabbing you by the neck once you decide to end a relationship. After all, it is normal human psychology that is driving you to get all those negative Vibes. But that does not necessarily mean that you will have to blame yourself for all that has happened.
In a nutshell, all we want to say is casual relationships do break-up, and it is nothing to feel guilty about. But there is always a correct way of ending the relationship so that both of the parties do not feel deceived.