Bisexual Valentine’s Day Guide: How to Celebrate Without Feeling Erased

Having a wonderfully bisexual Valentine’s Day can be a liberating and empowering experience. However, thanks to bi erasure and heteronormativity, the holiday can feel a little straight-focussed. How can we change that?

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We want you to feel happy and fulfilled in both your relationship and your sexuality. By feeling that way, you’re living authentically and intentionally. In turn, you’re allowing yourself to feel the pride and happiness you deserve to feel. So, let’s talk about the best ways to celebrate your Valentine’s Day without feeling erased.

Ways to Celebrate a Bisexual Valentine’s Day

• Think of a “bi” Theme: Okay, so we’re starting this short list with something a little kooky. Why not celebrate your bisexual Valentine’s Day by doing other “bi” things? You could go to the zoo with some binoculars, or go out with your partner and ride bicycles. We understand that this weirdness isn’t quite for everyone, but have a think about your hobbies and see if you can think of other bi things.
• Get Bi-Centered Gifts: Going all out for the bisexual theme on Valentine’s Day is undoubtedly a way to experience pride. However, it may strike you that no one actually needs ten pairs of socks in the bi pride colors. Instead, select gifts that center bisexual people, or purchase from independent stores run by them. A good way to do this is via music; pick up an album by a bi artist such as Lady Gaga, Halsey, or Aurora.
• Keeping It Subtle: If you’re still somewhat in the closet, then no judgment here: you can choose to come out on your own timetable. However, if you’re out to your partner, then you might consider some subtle gifts that only you and they will know the meaning of. As L Brinks pointed out when writing for Tagg, the colors of the bisexual flag are blue, purple, and pink. Find an innocuous gift with that color scheme, and you’re set!
• A “Mission” Date: A mission date isn’t as serious as it sounds. It’s essentially just a fun game to play while you’re on a date! For instance, you could go on a trip to the zoo and decide which of the animals you’d hire to rob a bank with you. For a more bi-themed zoo mission, try pairing animals with the bi artists we mentioned before. Which animal would like Freddie Mercury’s music the most?
• Get Crafty with the Bi Pride Colors: If you and your partner are both quite crafty and creative, having a craft-centered bisexual Valentine’s Day date can be lovely! The bi pride colors are blue, purple, and pink. To use them in your crafts, you could track down appropriately colored yarn, fabric, thread, craft paper, or paint. Once you’ve gathered your supplies, put your phones in the other room, pour a drink, and get into a chilled, crafty flow state. This type of “parallel play” activity can be ideal for those of us who struggle to express our emotions verbally.
• Track Down a Botanical Garden: A botanical garden might seem like a strange choice, but just think: it will be quiet and chill, plus there will be plenty of colorful flowers. Where better to track down the bi pride colors than in a flowerbed? As you go around the garden, take photos of each of the flowers you like best. Afterward, you can pick out your favourites and make a garden center shopping list. 
• A Scrapbooking Night: When people first come out, they’re often a little concerned that things will change going forward. By looking back through your memories together, you can show that not only do you still love them, but you love them just the same as you always have. A quick trip to the dollar store can get you all the supplies you need for this bisexual Valentine’s Day idea. Just remember to print off plenty of photos of the two of you!
• Recreate Your First Date: This might not be possible for everyone, but lots of us have that happy tingle when driving past a certain cinema, restaurant, or coffee shop. Think back to that day, and do what you can to recreate that happiness and excitement. If you still have the same outfit, track it down in your wardrobe! With a bit of planning, you can help both of you bring back some wonderful memories.

Creativity Matters Most

Having a bisexual Valentine’s Day isn’t necessarily about draping yourself in bi pride flags (though that may be a lot of fun). Instead, it’s about celebrating what your sexuality means to you. With a bit of creativity, you can forge the ideal celebration for you and your partner. As shared in an article on BiCupid, “It’s about creating your own traditions, celebrating your relationship in an authentic way, and embracing the journey you’ve shared together.”

Celebrating who you are is a beautiful thing, and every time someone does it, the world gets a little more beautiful. We hope that you can experience that celebration with a bisexual Valentine’s Day this year!